Clarisonic Aria in Black

So after contemplating for quite a while, I finally decided and got around in to purchasing myself a set of Clarisonic Aria in Black.

There are a couple of the reason why I got it at Sephora. Mainly is because I can actually kill two birds with one stone. First is because it's convenient for me to get back to Sephora in case I need to claim for my warranty #touchwood  and secondly is because I get to earn loyalty points and then score myself 10% off on all items on my next purchase. Hahaha #cheapskate alert !

This unit which I purchased, it retails at RM 779. By now I assume that you would be curious I'm knowing what are my thoughts  hahaha. Is it really worth it? Does it really work? Well before I could answer those question let's look first into what comes with the box. 

Image 1: this is how the box looked like when I first bought it. Just a regular box. Pretty sturdy. But I was a little upset that the corner of the box looked a it old. Especially at the back, I mean I paid so much for this device I'm really hoping to get that premium feel. You get what I mean ? 
Image 2: When you open the front flap you will be presented with information that are deem important. But knowing me I just jump straight right in. I really couldn't bother reading. All I want to do was to get my hands on the device. Hahah so you see that tiny indent in the centre of the ride side of the bo? That's where you need to poke your finger through it and then lift the their side of the flap.
Image 3: this is what the whole unit looked like when you lift the flap which I mentioned before. 
Image 4: In every box it comes with a user manual (which I didn't bother taking a picture of it), the actual device itself, a magnetic charger cord, a power plug,  a device stand, a Clarisonic mild cleanser and also an extra brush head which is suitable for sensitive skin. 

I've been using this device for close to 2 months plus now and overall I'm pretty happy with my purchase (not saying it because I paid quite a hefty amount). The device is really simple and user friendly. Holding the device itself is very comfortable as it has a very good amount of weight to it which is amazing as I didn't feel like I paid so much to get some tightly sealed plastic with a rotating motor inside. Hahah

As I have very sensitive skin my main concern is that this device don't suit me, and if that happen it would only mean I'll have to give it to my sister (who has been happily accepting many many expensive cosmetics from me  because I'm allergic to it) as in Malaysia we do not practise return policy on items which has been inboxed and used. But the sensitive brush head attachment that comes with it didn't really give me much of a problem. The device comes with 2 different speed option, I had mine on the lowest setting with 20 seconds interval on each beep. I like that the device oscillate gently giving me a very clean and smooth feel after rinsing. My face did experience mild purging at the beginning, but that could probably I used it wrongly or that my face is really that bad, but other than that it's fine. Owh another great feature is that the device is also water proof, which means it is safe to be used while ur in the showers. 

Instructions says to use it once a week (if I'm not mistaken. Don't quote me) and when you are comfortable you can use up to twice a week. I personally uses the device like once a week sometimes once every two weeks, depending on the condition of my skin. Some reviewer said they use it twice a day.  I tried it, bad idea, as it turned my face into a legit Grease ball ! You can collect all my natural oil and use it to fry an egg. My over exfoliated skin produced a lot of oil till I had a hard time trying to keep my liquid foundation in place!! Again depending on your skin type you decide how often you should use it. 

Two important thing that you should take note is that, remember to apply your favourite moisturiser after using the device. Because if you don't your skin may be dry and then it will lead to premature wrinkles. Secondly is prior to using the device you are required to charge it up to 24 hours. This way it is said it can prolong your battery lifespan. Hahaha like I said I was so excited about the device I used it the immediately after I took it out of the box. Then when I realise that I had to charge it I panicked and immediately charged it for 24 hours. So far the device have been pretty nice to me, I haven't charge it since I first charged it. 

The power plug that comes with it has a USB outlet. I tried to plug in other devices. It won't work. It will only work with the Clarisonic. The magnetic USB cord however can be plugged into your laptop for charging. So haha if you have intentions to bring this baby with you when you're travelling on vacation or something you better make sure you charge it well. 

Clarisonic recently also released another new model which is much travel friendly but stumpy in shape. I tested that out. Don't quite like it. Probably it is because it's not that nice to hold. 

So back to your question of does it really work? Yes and no. Yes, if you use it correctly. No, if you used it incorrectly. i.e using it too many times causing your skin to be over-exfoliated. Then the question on whether it is worth the money or not... Well, it depends, depends on whether or not you have the budget for me personally I don't really always go for facials so with this device it had done a pretty good job in making sure my skin get the TLC it yearns. There are many other devices out there which may not cost as much and probably cost just a fraction, if you are comfortable and don't face any issue with it. Use it. I know Daiso sells similar looking brush head for RM 5.60 but the only downside it is not battery operated so you will need to use your hand to manually operate that tool. I have personally used the one sold at The Body Shop and aside from having a little redness I was perfectly okay. It is just to say, now that I have started working and then have a couple bucks extra I tried to be cocky and started experimenting on these devices. Heheh. 

There is really no right or wrong when it comes to preferences.

So again, this product was purchased by my own money. I'm not being sponsored to mention any of the product stated above. 

Till my next post ... Which I don't know when. Hahah
Take care 


Errm ... 30 Facts About Me (Gone Wrong) !!!

So this weeks' post is a little different. Last week I had everything planned out really nicely according to what I have saved in my iPads note app. I am trying to do something different than the usual. So what happened was that I texted Leimun saying

 "hey, I'm giving you an assignment and is due to be submitted in 1 week time, you need to prepare a write up on '30 Facts About Me'"

With zero hesitation, she replied "okay !!! I'll email it over to you once I'm done". So a couple of days had gone by and I thought "why not just check up on her? ". The reply I received from her was rather unusual! She said "haha, I'm still doing it. I like this topic it brings back a lot of great memories, I think I'm going to exceed 30 Facts!!!"

An hour later I heard a ping on my phone, indicating a new email has arrived. Didn't really bother to look at the subject title, I just tap in to read when I spotted Leimun's name. It felt strange at the beginning, and as I read on I realise that Leimun mistakenly read my text. Hahahahah in her mind she was thought I was asking her to write a 30 Facts About Me! Instead of herself. Hahahahah, it was an honest mistake, however instead of wasting all her hard work and 'flashback of great memories' I have decided to turn it into a blogpost, I'd have to say that it is really interesting to read what others think about myself. Hahaha, a different perspective altogether.

Have fun reading what Leimun has to say about me !!!

1. She is so self obsessed that she chant Ngo Zhi Leng (I'm the prettiest) almost all the time and we had to agree with her by replying Lei Zhi Leng (you're the prettiest) - LOL
2. Aside from my sisters whom I have been sleeping with my whole life, she was my first roommate in Uni
3. Typical 'Still Water Run Deep' she was quiet at first when we met and then went wild just over the night after warming up with us (i still cant get over your BANANA SONG dance)
4. SHE SLEEP TALKS !!!!! Sometimes it can get so loud she will wake herself (not an issue for me because I deep sleep all the time, I sleep like a log)
5. Pet Lover (from dogs to gold fish and hamsters, she had it all, just gold fish kesian more la hahahha)
6. She has decent lady appearance but if you get to know her more you will realise that there is a man living inside her !
7. Big spender, especially before christmas - not on presents but for random consultation on illness to the specialist! (No joke on this,pretty consistent *touch wood*)
8. Love buying and wearing high heels and look good in heels
9. Has flat feet which explain on her ache feet after long walk in heels or even on slipper or ballet flats
10. Always willing to help give idea and advise if there are any problems which I face (like really any problems, from armpit hair removal to life goal)
11. Good at makeup and pretty much obsessed. Influenced her love for make up to me as well. (those "fat hao" days in UniMAP was certainly my greatest memory of all)
12. Invest a lot in her babies (make up items and brushes specifically)
13. She was the first person to dye my hair and first person to let me dye her hair. such an honor (mind you, she declares openly that her hair is her crown)
14. She gave me a copy of her "will" just in case if she have any 3 long 2 short (sudden emergency) - Note: I still have a copy of your passwords and words to your family lol
15. Have the tendency to say "if no reply calls or texts by certain time I will represent you to call "sam tiu 9" to rescue you!" (Calling the police)
16. Always surprise and amused people with her random funny thoughts - she asked me not to run away from home when I texted her that day saying I need a lift from her to go down south (i wont lei kah chut zhao okay, im 27 lol)
17. Very emphatic, always "representing others" to share their happiness and shitty moments
18. Noticed she have the tendency to release or share negative or upsetting incidents or thoughts during late night. Remember we particularly sit and share our thoughts all the time back at Uni at our hostel's garden and eating Ramli Burger, which has to be ayam special
19. She once read of a research saying that 'the best way to release tension or stress is to spit vulgarities! So whenever either of us feel stress we will meet up and have a free vulgarities sparing. Yes,we do cuss... a lot.
20. Good at study, just don't mention the numbers. - Angie: whoa, I think Leimun is way smarter lor
21. Love adventures and possesses that strong adventurous spirit (once walked 10km from Wang Ulu to Kangar - we had no idea how far or which road to use we just went with our hunch, also got lost at FRIM - that was my bad)
22. Self declare Dr. Loh, she reads up on certain medical book so much so she could self diagnose illness symptoms for herself as well as close friends and family - pretty accurate I'd say
23. Afraid to drive in her early 20s (i had minor heart attack in Langkawi when ShiYing passed the wheel to her - it was a manual car sum more), and now she is the driving instructor (gao che lou) to my sister and I
24. Anal about road safety and obey the laws - safe to place your life in her hands when she's the driver
25. Would rather choose a parking bay that is further away and would avoid at any course difficult parking spots which are near the entrance
26. Have the tendency to survey routes which are somewhat  new to her, especially if she is driving there ALONE
27. She love her car so much she name it Sylvia
28. Soon to be Director Loh - shhh cannot tell just yet
29. Very proud to say she lived independently ever since age 20
30. Intensively upgraded her patience through her past work experience - no joke okay
31. Grown mature in terms of mental thinking yet sampatness (crazy side) never leave her
32. Superb analytical skills (especially when dissecting an issue) on almost every issue i share with her
33. Constantly reminding others not to follow or walk down the path which she had walked and had bad experience on
34. Natural leader. She has that leadership in her, naturally gives other people orders or assignments and we are willing to follow her lead. (yes, i get a lot interesting assignments from her, much more than my coursework! i.e look what I'm doing right now)
35. She have good bunch of friends since secondary school and still bonding strong
36. Have very lovely family
37. Finally she is a Good friend of mine and i appreciate having her as my friend very much

So there you have it. 37 Facts About Me!? (Angie) hahaha written by Leimun. Interesting very interesting don't you think ?

Hahahahah see you in our next post !


Guide to Surviving Malaysia's Local University Life

Back then when I just completed and was waiting for my Form 6 STPM results to be released. I spend countless days thinking whether I will be able to get good results and then be accepted into a reputable university or not. Then from there I also I also have spent countless hours trying to figure out what I'll have to bring and what I should be doing to survive and excel in this new chapter in my life. 

In this new blog post entry I will be sharing with my readers (especially those who shared similar fate like me, being the first one in the family to be posted to a different state to further their studies) on simple Guide to Surviving University. 

I am by no means an expert, the whole idea of this blogpost is to only share my personal opinion and experience. I dare to share my thoughts because I know I'm not the only one doing so and these are legit what i have been through. haha

In no particular order, here is my Guide to Surviving University in Malaysia:

1. Accepting the Fact

I remember logging in to UPU website to check on the results, I got a real shock at the message displayed on my computer screen; congratulating me, saying that I was accepted into Universiti Malaysia Perlis for the course International Business, batch 1. Aside from the very affordable school fees and available PTPTN loan which I can take to support my Degree. The first thing that went to my mind was DAFAQ IS THIS PLACE? so what I did  shortly after was I starter Googling for images of the state of Perlis and then Googled further to know more about this university which I have yet to know about its existence. Hahaha. Anyway, after Googling for what seem to be like forever I decided to take the challenge thrown to me and accepted the offer. 

2. Be a Minimalist

One of the biggest mistake I made in my First Year First Semester was that I was so worried I won't be able to get a certain stuff which I normally would use in that small town. I worried so much I brought almost my whole room with me. Which was a silly idea. You know why ? Because when you get into your hostel you are only given a small locker a bunk bed and a table to study. The locker is so tiny you can't even keep much in there. Uni time is the best time to learn to be the minimalists! To be the Queen of Outfit-repeater! Because chances are no one would even notice or care. Also if there are items which you feel you really need, you can always go back home during the semester break and bring them over later on. 

I was really very fortunate to have Leimun as my first roommate. This girl is a crazy minimalist !!! So yeah I pretty much occupied most of the area in the room. Hahaha my other friends like Amanda my second roommate and Janice and Shi Ying were also minimalist. I was the only drama queen at that time, I think hahahahah.

In a nutshell, this is what you will be getting (of course the table was originally outside but we took it in)

and your bed would only look like this at every begining of the semester, shortly after you won't even bother making the bed because you will find yourself coming back so often for naps between classes

If by this point you still have no idea what I meant by being a minimalist, below are a list of items which I think are the most essential items you need to bring with you: 

a) 2 sets of pyjama, 3 sets of causal wear, 1 jacket, 2 pair of jean pants, 1 set of sports wear, 5 sets at least of formal wear clothing (you may go lesser if you are okay being seen wearing the same shirt twice in the same week, if you are taking engineering course you may want to double up on polo tees instead of on your formal wear) - may bring more if you wish but chances are you won't be using them. Bare in mind that for every piece of clothes you wear you are required to wash it yourself either by hand or the at the self service laundry machine in hostel which takes forever to reach your turn. Because there's only one damn machine and then there's like hundreds of us in that same building. 

b) 1 pair of flip flop, 1 pair of sports shoe (may double up as school shoe as well. Preferably running shoe coz they will make you do cross country 15KM , no joke I nearly died... Lols), one pair of converse shoe for class and one pair of heels for presentation 

c) A pail to keep and do laundry, hangers (damn important ) and some laundry detergent - optionally you can also opt not to bring them from home instead buy them when you are settled in your Uni. I remember using Leimun's washing detergent and hangers 

d) Stationery - pen, pencil, paper, erasers, file (you get the drill) and a bag for school. If you are able to afford it. I would suggest that you get prepared by buying your own laptop. Of course it is possible to cruise through Uni without a laptop, you just need to spend more time in the library and renewing your PC usage every other hour or so only. :) I got mine during the mid of First Semester.

e) Makeup - depending on how strong your addiction is. Or else just the basics will do. 

f) shower gel, shampoo, toothbrush and toothpaste

g) (this trick I learnt it from my roommate, Amanda) - go get yourself a stainless steel mug with a lid on. It will be very useful because you will be soaking a lot of instant noodles with it. It can also be doubled up as a cup or a bowl if needed.  Don't forget the chopsticks and fork and spoon ! 

h) if there's a little more space, packing a couple of late night snacks like cookies and instant noodles won't hurt


a) A printer, most Uni would require students to register their electronic items like printer and laptop. So please go get your items registered before you get fined for using an unauthorised or unsafe electronics within the hostel perimeter 

b) An electrical kettle, some Uni would provide each hostel or dorm a common Kettle. Thus, prohibiting students from bringing one. Some Uni would allow students to bring their own kettle but it has to be registered prior to using. As for Leimun, myself and many other students we knew, we secretly sneak our kettle into the hostel and carefully hiding them well after using. Hahahahah, our Uni eventually caved in and allow students to bring out own kettle to boil water after receiving several complain about the unit which they provide. 

c) For students who who could afford bring a car with you. Well, please be informed that students who are in their first year are normally not allowed to bring their cars to Uni, you may only register your car and park within the hostel or campus perimeter starting from second year onwards. However, if you are good enough with words you may go approach your seniors for help to get your car registered under his name. Of course I would not encourage you to do so because if you do, that would only meant that you owe that senior a favour and then if he or she ask you if they can bring your car out for a spin with their friends or dates you will feel very obligated to agree. Also when you have a car you need to be prepared to be the most popular student people want to have lunch with !!! 

My suggestion: skip the whole car hassle in your first year. I personally didn't have a car back then so I go around a lot relying on the shuttle services my Uni provided. Leimun has no car as well but she love walking and waiting so much you can always see her damn face in town almost majority of the time. Hahahahaha and mind you Perlis is a very hot state in a bad day temperature may go up close to 40 degree Celsius and you can always spot Leimun waiting for bus or eating at some random shop holding an umbrella in covered shoes, jeans, a polo tee and wearing our Uni Jacket. Myself I prefer to stay indoors till the evening when it is less hot. I'll try avoid going out as much as possible unless it is for school and weekend where I need to go out and have some fun. 

3. Make New Friends

I cannot stress enough how important this is. When you are away from home far from the city or town you are familiar with, the best way to survive is to make new friends. And chances are, these friends you befriended will be your friends for a very very long time. These are the people who would cry with you when you feel a little homesick, accompany you to visit the in-house clinic, they are the ones whom you will eat, sleep, study, visit places, gaining and giving moral support with. They are also your alarm clock on days when you accidentally slept pass your alarm. 

Be ready to really open up your eyes and discern who are the people you want to be friends with and who you don't want to be friends with. Chances are there are many assholes who will act like they are your friends and stab you at the back and some people who know what's going on won't even bother telling you because they are SELFISH , all men are for themselves. The best way to really see who are friends and who are foes is either by the end of your semester 1. If you are lucky, you may tell right away when you and your 'pals' are required to work on a group assignment. These people and those asshole that knew about what's going on and refuse to tell you despite you asking,  if you ever met one of them, please please delete and block them from all your social media account. Cut ties, I repeat cut ties !

If you are a lady, be ready to see your social media friend request boom up to 100 a day ! Because every guy in campus would want to be your friend. Well okay maybe not every but most ! Hahaha so definitely I would suggest that you categorise them nicely and think if you really want to approve that friends request or not. Sometimes you will feel as though you are obligated because the person who sent you the friends request is a senior. But hey, you don't need to feel bad you can keep the request there unattended till you have met or talk to that person and only then you approve is totally okay. Don't stress about petty issues. It is not worth your time.

4. Do What The Romans Do 

In Bahasa Malaysia we have this saying which is read as "masuk kandang kambing mengembek, masuk kandang kerb au menguak" as much as we want to go cowboy style, I strongly would advice you to observe what are some of the culture which other seniors and the locals does, unless of course if your Uni is located in the city then it is a whole different case as city people are much more liberal in many ways. But if you are like us (Leimun and I) our Uni is located in the state of Perlis where people there are much more conservative. Which means what deem as normal attire to us may not be normal to other. Haha, you get the drill.

Sometimes you may even find strange weird people who tend to fancy animals. Your housemate or dorm mate may even have pets which are strictly prohibited. Hahaha , like me I kept 2 hamsters for last 2 years of my Uni life. Some others may have kept like Pet iguana, cats, hamsters, fishes, tortoise or even an Owl!!!!  For all you illegal pet owners, make sure you set perfect boundaries for your pets and assure people around you that you will keep your pets under full control at all times. It is a good stress relief, and be prepared to get visitors from all races visiting your pet and not you. You also run the risk of getting a warning letter or a fine ticket for bringing in prohibited items. I remember how my Malay housemates help me hide my little hamsters while I was at class. I'm eternally grateful to them hahaha. I am also very grateful to have Shi Ying as my roommate who didn't really mind having pets around. She also did help me clean out the pan when I was busy doing some other thing. 

While I acknowledge that some people don't fancy such pets *cough*Leimun*cough* it is always good to be flexible and be open to the idea that your fellow mates have such weird obsession. Overtime Leimun did learn to like my hamster, she did use her index finger to touch them, I won't force Leimun to sleep with my hamster but she has to accept that my hamster sleeps in the room under my bed with me!

5. Time Management

With all the freedom we get, things can pretty much go out of hand. It is vital that we know how to manage our time, specifically - to study, to eat, to sleep and have fun. Because once you are in Uni your parents, siblings, grandparents, aunt and uncle or even your nanny will not be there to keep reminding you to study and what not. So this is the best time you learn how to organise your time accordingly. 

6. Be Independent 

This is one part that I really struggle the most and the area which I really learn it the hard way. So my advice is, if there's one thing you need or want to get, please do not be ashamed to open your mouth and ask. The key is to ASK ! If you don't ask you will be left out. Asking people politely is the only key to getting the answer. Aside from that it is also important for you to be bolder. I know some of you readers may be pretty meek and shy... i.e like me !!! Hahahahah trust me this is the best time for you to really train yourself to be bolder and more confident. Do learn that it is perfectly fine to ride the shuttle service bus alone, perfectly okay to study and eat alone when your schedule does not co-inside with your other friends and it can be a breakthrough for you to take small adventures visiting places alone. Take this 3-4 years of your time in Uni to really learn and be comfortable with yourself. 

7. Be Wise - Just Listen

Whenever there's a group of people who hangs out together 24/7 please be rest assured that drama would always occur. Best way to stay out of trouble is to listen more and talk less. You will find this skill very useful when you start working in the future. You may thank me later ! 

8. Have Fun 

Have FUN !!! Really just enjoy the ride, the ups and downs that comes with it. Make small mistakes is okay! Go explore , it is perfectly fine ! But please make sure you know your boundaries and principles. Know what you can do and what you cannot do and stand firm to it. 

Chances are, for you that haven't dated before, your first love may be one of the guys in Uni. If it is so, take things slow and don't be pressured into doing things you don't want to do just because others are doing so. If it didn't work out is okay, don't feel sad. Ask any of your seniors and they are well aware of this acronym FUU(for university use), it sounded lame but, oh well. I'm not saying there's no true love, I do know quite a number of them who are still standing strong till this day. Point is, just relax, don't worry too much and try to really control your emotions and stay focus to study your subjects (especially when it is test or exam period). 

University life is all about experiencing. Just go with it and I promise you it would be the best time of your life. 

I hope what I have just shared is good enough to help give a glimpse of what University life is.  Among my siblings and I, I was the only one who got enrolled into a local University, the rest of them and most people around me enrolled themselves into Private UniColl (3+0) so I didn't manage to get much reference or sharing of experiences. Coming from a background which was pretty conservative and protected, I had to learn most of it the hard way. It is okay I'm not complaining. Looking back right now, University life is one of the best season I have ever experienced and I'm forever grateful to it. 

Till our next post.

Angie 😀

7 Signs The Guy/Girl You're Dating is a Keeper !!!

I know I am a bit late but HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY !!! So how did you celebrate the special day with your loved ones ? I know for sure is that the moment I log into my FaceBook account I was bombarded with proposal pictures ! Travel selfie with their loved ones, statuses declaring their love and gratitude to the one they are spending the day with and so on...

Aside from all those post on FaceBook which was shared by my friends and family. I have also noticed lately that there has been this trend of sharing posts of the same blog title I have in this post. At the initial part, my curiosity coupled with the need of someone validating my thoughts lead me to clicking those links to read them.

The outcome? I got frustrated when someone I thought is THE ONE / THE FRIEND only manage to score 3 points out of the 7 points stated. Urgh that frustration that I need to endure after reading that post. Feeling upset , I moved on to the next post titled ' 7 Signs She/He Is No Longer Into You Anymore' , and at this point I scream OMG THAT LITTLE IMBECILE IS NO LONGER INTERESTED IN ME BUT HE HAS NO BALLS TO TELL ME HE WANTS TO CALL IT OFF !!! ALL 7 POINTS ARE SPOT ON !!!!

Like a crazy chain reaction, one thing leads to another. First you will start being suspicious, then doubts will creep in, and when he says he is busy you will go berserk thinking he is cheating on you, followed by unnecessary arguments and then finally some may come to a point of going separate paths because each is equally convinced what they read online is accurate.

So before being a 'keyboard warrior', I sat down and asked myself "after all the all the experiences I have been through, do I know the true meaning of love?" So I looked at the people who are around me at the coffee shop and then I look at the people who loved and care for me. And I realise that LOVE is probably not as complicated as we all think of it to be.

If you are looking for a post which will list out all these signs for you. SORRY !!! It was a trap! I made you click on the link on purpose because what I really wanted to share today is purely are LOVE and my personal opinion on it.

Here is my take (in no particular order) on what I think LOVE is:

1. Love is: Appreciating simple things in life
Like eating KFC!!! I have said this many times in my previous post and I'm saying it again, if you want to see pure joy and love go to KFC!!! (Especially in the first week of every month).  Is something I do pretty often back then when I was studying. I would go there and sit for hours observing people, how a simple chicken meal can put a smile on their face. If that is not enough to convince you that love is really simple, read on. Someone told me yesterday that he knew of this person who is really rich and pretty famous as well, constantly choose to eat KFC instead of dining in nice expensive restaurant. Sometimes, the most valuable gift in life are things that are not expensive and things that money cannot buy.

2. Love is: Unconditional
Which means loving someone including their flaws that comes with it i.e his habit of laughing out loud, snoring, accepting their body shape just as they are and not hurling ugly words at others and so on. Now don't get me wrong, by flaws I didn't mean that you have to accept him as he is if he has anger or abusive characteristic by nature. If he has traits of such I expect that you will be way smarter by leaving him/her. Remember if the person loves you he will respect you.

3. Love is: Understanding
This is easier said than done. Even I myself is struggling with this. I don't know about you but I'm pretty much a control freak myself. I control pretty much everything, so much so at times it come to a point where the other person may feel really chocked up being around me. Through experience I learn that practicing empathy and putting yourself in the other person shoe can really help in improving the relationship/friendship.

4. Love is: Bringing out the best in one another
Aside from being a companion or a partner to the other person. Being in a relationship /friendship also means that bringing out the best in them. You never know how a simple  boost of compliment can bring the other person a long way. Encouraging one another is is also important. Even the most positive person can use a little encouragement.

5. Love is: Giving one another enough space to breathe
I couldn't stress enough on this point. I am no professional advisor but I one thing I know best is that despite being in a relationship/friendship it is always important to give one another adequate space to spread out their wings and have some Me Time. If you are in a relationship it is important that you allow your partner to go out and have some fun with their home boys or home girls. Unless and until you find something fishy between your partner with their home boys or home girls, never stop them from going out. These are the people that directly or indirectly shaped your partner to become what he /she is now. There is no wrong to having a social life. The more you try to control them the more it will backfire.

Some may click on on this post out of curiosity , while others they probably just needed someone to help them validate that the person they are with is The One.

At the end of the day, it is pretty much like a check and balance thing. Be it in a relationship or a friendship. Everyone has to learn to love and be loved so things can really work out. It takes two hands to clap anyway. (Don't tell me you can clap with one hand by smacking your own chest, that's pure stupidity)

Now, here is just a little disclaimer. I'm not saying I'm perfect and know how to love better than others. In fact I'm so capable of holding on to things that are not necessary important that at the end of the day the person that hurt most is myself. I'm still learning the art of Love and being Loved and the art of forgiving others. If you have a thought you would like to share you may post it in the comment below.

See you in my next post


I Am Still Alive !!!

Life has been pretty interesting for the past  two year. I don't even know where to begin.

The broke up with the ex wasn't a pleasant one. Imagine yourself dating a person for quite some time and then all you hope for is that the person you are dating with to be on the same page as you are. Except that at the end of it. He tells you that he couldn't let go of his ex girlfriend whom he broke up with 3 years ago and who is about to get married. And then he just tell it to your face that he just want to call it off. And then he took off just like so leaving you on your own to lick your own wound by the corner of your room. I often laugh at it now saying that back then the whole saga was almost like one of the crazy break up scene you see on Korean drama. And you are so ashamed to tell others that you kept it all to yourself and end up looking like a great big mess.

But over the year long period,I would have to say. That I am very very proud of myself. As cool as you think I am. That broke up made me realized that. I wasn't as independent as I thought I was. I had to start everything from ground zero almost. I had to figure out everything including how to learn to drive. Get myself food. Learn not to think so much and the list goes on. Not sure if I mentioned before but I'm really thankful to have a handful of really amazing friends who really put in effort in helping me. Teaching me how to drive. How to go explore places. And constantly keeping me occupied with activities. 

In just within a short period of one year. I now can drive well. Not super well. But good enough to get me from one point to another. Owh and I even had an upgrade, no longer driving the myvi now; bought a new imported car and I'm so proud of myself coz it's a sedan and I'm paying for it myself.  I'm no longer afraid of being alone, in fact I enjoyed the ME time that I am getting. By bringing myself to the cinema. Treating myself with a good meal and also taking myself out for a shopping session. 

I can only say, I couldn't have gone through all that without God's help. He never fail to send me angels in disguise to come help me when I'm stuck at the junction. A year have passed. You may ask if I'm still upset at him and if I'm feeling very hurt. Well my reply is. I'm not as upset as I was initially as this person no longer matter to me. But because he hurt me before, therefore, I do not want to have anything to do with him. As to do I hate him ? Well not as much. I learn to see that there has to be a reason that God placed him in my life. And the reason could be that God want me to learn to appreciate love and experience hurt at the same time. Well is a chapter that has passed and I do not want to look back. 

The hurt won't stop me from loving. I remember seeing a quote that goes like. If someone hurt you. Never stop loving. In fact learn to love harder than ever.  Loving him was a choice made by me. And for that. I must be ready to face whatever consequences that comes with it. Someone told me that I felt much hurt compared to him is because I loved him more. Well, whether or not that's the truth I don't know. But that statement sure is comforting. Hahaha. But it takes two hands to clap. 

So I gave myself a short time off from all these relationship thing till I met this one person. Whose very unique by nature. But fits all the criteria that I'm looking for in a partner. Taking things slowly. Still learning how make sure that this time I'm doing it right by keeping God the centre of everything. One day at a time. Keep me in prayers. 

Owh and recently I bought a bunch of very interesting make up stuff. So I intend to give it a try first before sharing it with you ladies here. There's a list of items that I wish I could get by this year. But looking into the economic condition. These items may just be put on hold for little while. Unless someone is very much generous enough to gift or sponsor me those item haha. 

Till my next post. Take care everyone. 


Cute and Easy Nails Designs

Hi everyone, it took so long for the nails post to be up.

I would like to share two cute and fastest nail art design that you definitely can do it yourself without messing it up. 

The first design is featured by Susuwatari (dust bunnies/ soot spirits) from Studio Ghibli. Here you will need to have a few tools: black & white acrylic paint/ nail polishes, detail brush, dotting tool, and water to dilute the acrylic paint. 

First, apply your favorite base color on the nail and outline susuwatari in round shape. Once you are happy on the distribution of susuwatari, fill up the color. The round shape does not need to be perfect as we are going to add tiny fur around them in the next step. Then use white acrylic paint and a medium size dotting tool, dot on the eyes, and small size dotting tool for the pupils. Finish the design with a layer of top coat. 

The second design is a heart and a cutie bear. For this design, we will need red acrylic paint/ nail polish, a detailed brush, water, bear sticker and glitter of your choice. 

First, apply your preferred base color on the nail and outline a heart shape in middle section of nail with detailed brush and red acrylic paint. Then fill up the heart and add some glitter at the center of the heart while the painting is still wet. Put the sticker at the corner of the heart shape and outline the heart with gold glitter. Finish the design with a layer of top coat. 

Hope you will enjoy this simple tutorial and please let us know if you try this.